FACING ANGER FROM OTHERS

How to face other's anger. Despite being gentle and good hearted what is one to do when confronted by abuse and anger from others? Some situations appear to be akin to the verbal delusions that Patanjali speaks of, and far from being explosive, may upon reflection be found to be funny. Once one editorial appeared in a newspaper making unpleasant and uncharitable and offensive remarks about a person and people around tried to provoke him but he was least exited on the verbal delusion on which less balanced people would have lost their heads with a quiet and pithy remark: When a shoe bites human, humans don't bite the shoe back. If ego sense can be restrained to harmless limits, we can easily see the funny and saucy side of things and save from being ridiculous slaves of burning anger.

For instance a big wave of anger comes into the mind how to control that? Just by raising an opposing wave. Only those thoughtful persons who are convinced that anger is their prime enemy after having experienced the evil effect of anger in their inner and outer life seek to overcome anger. People turn abusive when they get angry.

Once Buddha had gone to ask for food in one household and the owner of the house used harsh words for Buddha replied Friend, if i refuse to accept food from you the food will remain as your and the same way if I refuse to accept your abuses and ill will it returns to you, does it? Those who are earnest about extinguishing the fire must not continue to feed it with inflammable things. An angry person should not add fuel to his anger. It is the silenced pampered ego that supplies fuel to anger, delighting in finding fault with others, completely ignoring you own failings. All these are signs of our inner unregenerate condition which is called ignorance.